Self-Love Challenge: Week 8: Giving Yourself Forgiveness and Grace
13-WEEK SELF LOVE CHALLENGE
WEEK EIGHT: GIVING YOURSELF FORGIVENESS AND GRACE
PREVIOUS WEEKS IN CASE YOU MISSED THEM:
INTRO TO WEEK EIGHT:
Why do we need to forgive ourselves?
We are the only person that we have full control over. We can only change how we react to a situation, we cannot control the said situation.
What is grace? What does grace look like to each person?
Does grace mean giving yourself space? Is grace showing acceptance?
Let’s dive deeper into these topics.
Do you often find that you’re your worst critic?
Are you easily influenced by the thoughts and rumination you’re constantly feeding yourself?
If any of this resonates with you, it’s time for a change.It’s time to be stronger than your thoughts.
Forgiveness is a hard concept.
How can we forgive others or ourselves if all of the emotions are still attached?
The answer lies in the love you have for yourself and what you want for yourself.
This is not going to be an easy process. Forgiveness takes time.
However, you will thank yourself when you try.
So remember, try try and then try again.
You deserve to be forgiven.
Here are some steps to begin the forgiveness process:
Grab your journal and write down everything that consistently brings you down or that you’re dwelling on. Don’t hold back.
This is so that you can be aware of your thoughts and emotions. Being aware and willing to accept is step one.
Now, counter those thoughts with positives.Be sure not to place blame on anyone.
If you need to, write letters that you’ll never send out.Write them to yourself and then rip them up. It is such a satisfying feeling.
Next, I want you tolist all of your positive qualities. List as many as you can. If you’re struggling to reach 20 you need to take a step back, breathe, and understand who you are more. The more the merrier.
In the same token, write down some qualities that hold you back.The qualities that spur up self-limitingbeliefs and undermine who you are. For me, these would be impatience and feeling disrespected.
It is important to know your weaknesses just as much as your strengths so that you can work on them valiantly. Hopefully one day your weaknesses will turn into strengths.
The final step is evaluation.
Evaluate and process everything.
Look back at everything that lowers your mood, everything you’re ruminating on, then read over yourpositive qualities and everything you have going for yourself. Start making action plans of ways to conquer your weaknesses. Know what they are so that when they arise you can fight back.
Understand that many limiting beliefs are all our own skewed perceptions.
We need to forgive ourselves for these perceptions. It takes time and energy to balance the emotional mind with a rational mind. Try to reason with yourself before becoming upset.
Forgive yourself for every time you thought something negative about your own self-worth. You are so worthy and capable of so many things. Never discredit that. If you find that you are too hard on yourself in this category, forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself for any mistake that you think you have made.We’re all human; there is no right or wrong way to accomplish everything. We are all going to make mistakes at some point and that is okay. Allow yourself to breathe through these situations and begin to show yourself grace.
GIVING YOURSELF GRACE:
In the midst of forgiving yourself, you must have grace.
What is grace? Grace is defined as “courteous goodwill”. It is a sheer form of flattery towards yourself and others. It is utter kindness.
I pair grace with forgiveness because I feel as if they go hand-in-hand.
Through the trials and tribulations of learning to forgive, you must show yourself love and acceptance to persevere.
Plain and simple, be kind to yourself!
If your friend were struggling to find a loving body image, you wouldn’t tell them they’re ugly or that they need to lose 5 more pounds. So why are you being so hard on yourself? Your self-talk should be just as kind as the way you talk to others.
If you wouldn’t say it to someone else, don’t say it to yourself either.
Encompass an all and everlasting kindness attitude.
Grace is one massive leap in the healing process. Grace will heal you if you’re accepting of it.
You must be willing to accept it.
To me, grace involves showing kindness, love, forgiveness, and acceptance.
If you are constantly and consistently searching for kindness, love, forgiveness, and acceptance out in the world, you will begin to conquer all of your fears.
If you are fearful of something, search for the grace in it and do not give up until you find it.
It’s all in the mindset.
Once you start actively looking for love instead of fear, you will look at the world through loving eyes.
Many fears you once had will no longer exist.
Just like forgiveness,it takes practice and patience. But do not give up, my darling.
You are so strong and so loving. I know you have it in you.
BOOK RECOMMENDATION FOR WEEK EIGHT:
The Surrender Experiment by Michael A Singer
GOALS FOR WEEK EIGHT:
Make a journal entry about everything that is holding you back in life: fears, weaknesses, past traumas, etc.
Make a second journal entry about all of the positive qualities you learned from the above fears and add all of your strengths in there as well; do not be shy.
Read through your strengths and positive qualities every day this week. Begin being consciously aware of all of the good things surrounding you. Search for the love, kindness, forgiveness, and acceptance everywhere you go.