Self-Love Challenge: Week 10: Embracing Vulnerability
13-WEEK SELF-LOVE CHALLENGE
WEEK 10: EMBRACING VULNERABILITY
PREVIOUS WEEKS IN CASE YOU MISSED THEM:
INTRO TO WEEK 10:
With the way the world is today, I believe it’s healthier than ever to become vulnerable.
Our world is always go, go, go and looking from a computer screen to your phone, figuring out what’s for dinner, struggling to go to bed and then waking up and doing it all over again.
Where is the“me” time in that? Where is the self-love and zest for a fun and healthy life?
Where is the close human interaction?Do we ever really get close to others? How do we get close to others?
I first want to discuss the differences in being transparent versus being vulnerable.
Both have to do with opening up to others, but there is a difference.
Transparency involves letting people into your life but notexpressing the emotions and feelings behind it. Aka telling co-workers that you had a morning where you broke a bowl and spilled coffee and your kids were late for school and everything else bad that happens to you in a rush.
So, in short, being transparent is expressing things that happen without diving deeper.
Vulnerability involves more risk taking, which is what makes it scary. More of completely opening up to loved ones about intimate feelings. For instance, me explaining how bad my anxiety has been because I have been switching medications. That's personal information with the reasoning behind it. I'm letting you in on a piece of why I am the way I am.
It's often scarier for people to be vulnerable, that's why for many people being "vulnerable" means being transparent. There's still that wall up.
Vulnerability just involves breaking that wall down so that you’re confident in yourself and can be comfortable sharing emotions with others.
I mean come on now, we’re all human beings with emotions. The different types of emotions may vary, but that’s why it’s so important to talk about them and express them with one another; so that we can understand.
One of my favorite aspects of being vulnerable is being emotionally aware.
Being emotionally aware ties back into balancing the rational mind with the emotional mind to form the wise mind.
You need logic and emotion for a healthy mind.
Now, when you’re comfortable with your emotional mind it will become easier to express vulnerability.
Embrace it and express it.
So, in a world where many interactions are now through the internet, maybe we should take a closer look at our in-person relationships. Do we let those people into how we are feeling?
It’s a part of human nature to want to form connections with people. Maybe try being vulnerable with a few people close to you.
I truly believe that vulnerability is a strength and can strengthen your emotional intelligence; because it involves you understanding your own emotions in order to express them.
The more you understand your emotions and can be vulnerable with yourself, and the more you practice being vulnerable with others, the more self-esteem you will start to gain.
Tips to begin to overcome the fear of being vulnerable:
-Journal it out. Write down how you feel during certain scenarios or activities. Learn how YOU react to situations and understand YOUR body so that you can become aware of your emotional needs.
-Talk it out. Practice being vulnerable with those closest to you. Expressing emotions with loved ones will only bring you guys closer and form a deeper bond. Start small and work your way to something that seems intimidating. But, keep practicing and keep it genuine.
-Have patience with yourself. Show yourself grace throughout the process and learn to love it.
BOOK RECOMMENDATION FOR WEEK 10:
Daring Greatly: How The Courage To Be Vulnerable Transforms The Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.By Brene Brown
GOALS FOR WEEK 10:
First, understand where you lie with vulnerability. Do you express it often? Or do you need some work becoming emotionally aware? Whip out that journal again and begin describing your feelings.
Try communicating on a deeper level with the person closest two you. Work on how you communicate with one another.
Review the previous weeks and see how they can align with being vulnerable.