25 Things I've Learned in 25 Years
25 Things I’ve learned in 25 Years
-Another lap around the sun, another year of knowledge. Just thought I'd impart some wisdom on ya.
1. Stay True to Yourself
Plain and simple: Be you, boo boo. Take the time to get to know your worth, values, and standards and stick to them. Be confident in them and do not let anyone ever lower them.
2. Understand that you are your most important friend
You are with yourself 24/7. Having a relationship with yourself is a legitimate thing. Do things for yourself such as your hobbies and passions. Focus on that self-care and listen to your body. Do what makes you happy, always.
3. Kindness will win any battle
Remember when you were 7 and someone taught you to kill them with kindness when you had a disagreement with a classmate? Well, the same applies to your adult life as well. Being kind will not only open up the eyes of the other person, but it will tear down some walls you may have built for yourself. Be kind to strangers, be kind to friends and family, and most importantly, be kind to yourself.
4. Finishing school quicker does not get you anywhere faster
Yes, if you know for a fact what your path is and you are totally set on a given career that needs a masters degree then, by all means, do it. With that being said, the quicker you rush through the program and stress yourself out is not going to do you any good. Slow down, enjoy the experiences, take the time needed for your health, and finish it at your own pace.You have your whole life waiting for you.
If you’re on the other end and have no idea what you want to do, maybe take a break year and get some experiences. Travel and spend time interning or volunteering at different places until you have a feel for what you want to do. From grade school, we’re forced to rush into the next grade and cram all of our studies into a day and it’s exhausting. Then we’re expected to go to college. Well, maybe we need to evaluate our lives and get some experiences first. Whatever you decide to do, know that it’s okay.
5. It’s truly the little things in life
The little things definitely add up to the big things. Smile at everyone, talk to strangers, buy the dark chocolate bar, take so many pictures, write a handwritten letter, give someone a hug, etc etc. You never know where some opportunities will lead you, so take note of all the “little” things happening around you.
6. Taking things for granted will catch up on you
You cannot take back time. Use it wisely. Stay in the present moment and soak up everything around you. There’s no need to stress and worry about things, it’s just added pressure. Focus on the now. Right now. Take it one thing at a time one day at a time. If you’re always thinking about what to say next then that conversation just passed you by. If you’re always thinking about the next trip you’re going to take then the day you have now is gone for good.
7. There’s no rush in life or abundance
There is absolutely no rush in life. Your timeline is what fits for you. Everything happens for a reason at its own pace and that’s okay. Find the gratitude in the things you have now and enjoy the journey.
8. Purpose fuels passion and passion fuels purpose
Your purpose in life and the passions you acquire go hand-in-hand. I view purpose as intentional living. Living with intention gives every day meaning. It allows you to focus on the present moment and what that meaning holds. Allowing your intentions and your purpose to spark your interests is where it fuels your passion. On the other hand, I feel as if the reason you have your passions and interests is so that you can have a purpose in life. Regardless, use them to your advantage.
9. Your intuition is smarter than you think
Your intuition; that gut feeling of knowing what you should do, trust it. You know yourself better then anyone else does. If something doesn’t feel right to you, you have every right to question it.
10. Your health (mind/body/spirit) is the most important
Like stated previously, you are your most important friend. Respect yourself enough to take care of your mind, body, and soul.If you don’t know one else will. Feed your mind with personal development books, take care of your mental health by meditating or journaling, and practice self-care rituals that work for you.
Take care of your bodyby nourishing it with healthy fresh whole foods while limiting sugars. Make sure to get the appropriate amount of exercise as well. It’s okay if you’re not a gym junkie, but go for walks, find a sport you enjoy, stretch or do yoga, etc.
Take care of your soulby understanding your spirituality, whether you consider yourself to be a spiritual person or not. Take the time to sit with yourself in silence and process where you’re at in life, if you feel as if you’re on the right path or not. Get outside in nature, detox from electronics for a while.
11. Finding love instead of fear is crucial
We’re all human beings, we all are fearful of something. The trick is not to allow the fear to overtake us. Search for the love in it instead.
Are you the type of person that is always thinking about the “what ifs”? Well, instead of dwelling the what ifs, find something good that has happened in that situation before. It's going to take a lot of practice before it becomes easy, but then you'll immediately see the love before the fear.
12. Communication is the key to any relationship; romantic or not
We all have feelings, whether we show them or not. If you’re in a relationship with a friend, a family member, a significant other, a coworker, and even yourself, communicate how you’re feeling as best you can. Try to stay away from placing blame on another person or assuming things about that person. Communicate effectively and you’ll find that there will not be many problems.
13. Actions always speak louder than words
You can say something over and over and over again, but if you do not put the action behind it, it is going to seem worthless. I don’t know about you, but I am a trustworthy person. If I say I’m going to do something, I do it. Don’t let people get weary of you. Do what you say you're going to do.
14. Growth is a constant, everyday development
Ahhh personal development. One of my favorite topics. Growing as an individual does not stop after school is finished. Growth should be an everyday task.For me, there is always something new I can learn about myself and I always strive to be a better person than I was yesterday. I am constantly researching articles, reading inspiring books, and taking that time I need for myself to journal and reflect. I will never stop learning and growing.
15. You’re really not that special
Sounds a little harsh, but what I mean by it is that people are not always thinking about you. Everyone is thinking about themselves most of the time. If you’re worried about what people think of you, really try to convince yourself not to. There’s no need to stress yourself out about scenarios you are making up in your head. Stay true to who you are, be a kind person, and you won’t have to worry about anyone else’s thoughts because you’re confident in yourself.
16. Sometimes there’s no easy way
We can search and search for ways to take the shortcut or do something half-ass, but sometimes it will come back to haunt us. If you want to become a writer, you have to take the time to sit and write every single day. If you want to improve your mental health, you have to actively take steps that work for you. If you hit rock bottom, the only way out might be to take a leave from work and going to therapy every day. But it’s okay. Sometimes the hardest challenges we face are the ones we need to see most.
17. Experience with evaluation is so much more beneficial
With everything you do, evaluate and reflect.This ties into growing every day. In order to continue moving forward, you need to reflect on where you came from so that you can take away learning experiences from it. Take away the positives and things that you can continue adding upon, then recognize the negatives and the things you should eliminate.
18. You have so much to offer this world
You are such a unique and beautiful human. We are all made differently so that we can share our own stories with the world. Take your passions and run wild with them.
19. Put the onions in first
Kinda silly but oh so true. If I’ve learned anything about cooking lately, it’s that onions need to be sautéed first so that the rest of the dish will have the flavor.
This holds true for garlic as well.
20. Understanding your emotions makes you stronger
For some reason, our society sees vulnerability as a weakness, when in reality it is a strength. It takes so much bravery and courage to be open and honest with yourself to others.The more you are emotionally aware of what’s going on inside of you, the more you will be able to regulate your emotions. Don’t be afraid of them and push them away. Acknowledge emotions, accept them, feel them, and then let it go.
21. You have full control over all of your choices
When you fully grasp the concept that you can do whatever your little heart desires at any given moment, the world is yours.Even if you feel like going to work every day is something you’re forced to do, it is still a choice. You could technically just walk out whenever you felt like it (not that this is a good idea if you like your career). But, if you’re unhappy you have the choice to take control over that and change your environment. Remember that you are your highest priority; take care of yourself.
22. Perspective is everything
The way you view a situation could be completely different than the way I view it. We, as humans, cannot assume anything. The more we feed into our false perceptions about things the more we believe them. It is important to balance a rational mind with an emotional mind to form a wise mind.
23. Motivation doesn’t exist
Motivation magically forming out of thin air doesn’t exist. Taking action that sparks your drive and willpower does exist. You have to actively do things you’re trying to incorporate into your life and have the willpower to continue doing them until they become a habit.At the point that they become a habit does motivation appear. It now appears because you want to do it.
24. Don’t take yourself too seriously
I don’t know about you, but I am often way too hard on myself. But, why?? Relax a little. Enjoy life and laugh A LOT!I need to practice showing myself grace more so that I can enjoy the present moment to my fullest capabilities.
25. Karma will always come quick
I don’t care whether you believe in karma or not. She is always right around the corner. Karma has no timeline. This point helps me reiterate that being kind will win all of your battles. Be the best and most kind human you possibly can be and let karma do the dirty work.